Lia has started swimming classes just before turning 4 months. The compelling proposition was that babies have innate water-friendly abilities and reflexes that will aid their development as a water baby. After all, they were immersed in fluid for 9 months!
Coach Wan from Happy Fish taught me a valuable lesson in developing a child’s abilities. She propped Lia onto her shoulder, faced upwards, and bounced gently in the water so that Lia floats on her back.
“Lia is small (size and age); we want to take advantage of this by getting her used to her buoyancy. This way, she won’t struggle with floating once she’s learnt to sit upright because she’s familiar with remaining horizontal in the water.”
She went on to explain how new skills are imparted through taking advantage of each stage of a child’s development.
This means that as parents, being present and aware to our children helps us to recognize where they are at in their development right now, as well as their strengths and their personality, and to take advantage of that to help them learn and embed new capabilities and understanding.
It means not forcing them beyond their current stage of development to attempt to cram advanced logics and concepts in hopes that they learn more, faster.
It means, being at peace with who they are now and encouraging that, instead of forcing them into being the concept of someone you’d like them to be.